HONESTY – The Inevitable Essence of a RELATIONSHIP?

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“Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand”

A beautiful saying from the pen of Margaret Mead makes us feel the essence of a relationship and a feeling of oneness with your loved ones. We will talk more about relationships and an important factor – Honesty in the survival of any relationship.

Are you happy with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Are you bestowed the same respect that you demand from your partner? Are you the kind your partner takes you to be or you just bluffing? Well, these are the basic baffling questions one needs to answer oneself when one is in a relationship! It is no big a deed to get in a relationship, but it’s really tough to be in a healthy relationship and maintain a touch of honesty, integrity and fidelity with your partner. It is heart touching and a complete feeling of bliss to hear someone love you, but only if the relationship has a warmth of understanding and honesty nurtured in it. Otherwise, “love” is a just a mere word with “no-feelings” imbibed in it.

Relationship is a sweet kind of bonding two people share with a sense of responsibility to handle the warmth in it. The relationship may be interpersonal, intimate, direct or indirect. Be it any kind, honesty forms the basic entity in all. The famous maxim rightly defines honesty – “Honesty is the best policy”. In a true relationship, the partners share all matters with each other; be it worth revealing or not. A relationship can make or mar your life.

The present generation boys and girls are highly vulnerable to problems in a relationship. They counter to a relation, but lack maturity needed to smoothly strengthen the relationship. These days teenagers are used to speaking “white lies” just to avoid being uncomfortable or to keep the other person happy. This is because the society has defined some standards for honesty. Their definition suggests that one can lie if things don’t favor you. The young generation caters to these definitions and so the small lies they say for no biggies mitigate the love of their relationship.

“Bonds are weak until they are tested”. The above saying rings some truth. Only trust in a relationship can withstand this feeling in your bond with your partner. Trust is a stand-alone entity in a relationship. If you don’t trust your partner, then the weak links of your relation will soon end up in a feeling of remorse. So, it is always better to speak out things even if you don’t want to reveal, when you are in a relationship; which would anyways be known some other day. And trust comes when you are honest. Honesty is a key measure to know how strong you are related to your partner.

In this 21st century, faith and trust are “gone-away” words. To be completely honest, sometimes may leave us in a fix. Honesty is not always the heart of all what we say. But again, honesty has various degrees. Just consider a situation that a girl and her beau are going out for a party. This situation may have occurred to many of us. The girl dressed in marvelous attire asks her boyfriend whether she isn’t carrying an extra flab look with her dress. Now, if the guy honestly replies in a straight forward way that “yes, you are looking fat dear”, then the girl would feel hurt though it may be the truth.

Another way round if the boy replies that the dress is absolutely your feet and you look too gorgeous in it, then maybe at the party other people may cause embarrassment to the girl and the girl may later get angry with her beau. Thus, being completely honest or completely dishonest in a relationship doesn’t always help. Here, the correct way to reply is by reforming a degree of honesty. Things would have been fine if the guy replies that you are looking nice, but I think you look slimmer in the other dress which you wore the other day. Such a diplomatic reply would suffice the need of honesty with a blend of softness.

Now we will talk about the phobia of honesty! Many times you have certain secrets which you feel if revealed to your partner would lead to the sabotaging of your relationship. The unraveling things often are about physical intimacy, money or similar things. If you don’t tell your partner about your secrets, you will always find guilt within you. This reduces closeness with your partner and is not an open and trustworthy relation. This is not a strong relationship. It leads to melancholy and stress rather than joy and pleasure. Any relationship which is weak meets its dead end at an early or later stage, isn’t? So, do not hide anything from your partner and be honest in confronting everything. May be your partner would feel hurt, but if your relationship is strong and true, your partner will understand you. A true relationship is always ready for any kind of disagreement because the end is always peaceful. Truth hurts but it heals.

There is a continuous vicious cycle. If one is lacking self esteem, one is tempted to be dishonest. This leads to a fear of truth which ultimately indulges one to be dishonest. And again, being dishonest leads back to low self esteem. It is a difficult task to break through this cycle once a person is trapped in it. So better avoid lies and enhance your self esteem! Not only does speaking honesty makes you feel happy, but it also has other benefits. You build up self confidence, self worth and self esteem once you have spelled out all truth within you. Also, you develop better emotional resilience and the ability to be on the side of truth as you have succeeded in revealing the truth by being honest.

Lastly, a final note: Just believe in yourself and your partner! Then “Honesty” is bound to be a part of your relationship and you won’t be shy about your truths.


Cosmetics – “Being Beautiful”

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Who doesn’t want to look attractive and luring today! Well, today people are so very cautious about beautifying their body and the way they carry themselves! Are you also in the same league to beautify yourself! So want to know the beauty mantra? A huge number of cosmetics available in the market can do the needful for you. Here are some details on some cosmetics you can use for glorifying beauty.

Cosmetics are beauty products applied onto one’s body to enhance appearance and to beautify one’s skin.  With today’s all time high ecological, health and beauty awareness among customers, cosmetics are available in the form of organic cosmetics, mineral cosmetics and even eco-friendly cosmetics to be in pace with an overwhelming demand for such beauty products.  Also, the concept of “total well-being” is gaining ground due to which people give importance to benefits and ingredients of products.


Today’s youth have a fascination of getting cosmetic tattooing done for permanent results. Also there is a sleek trend seen at having permanent eyeliner on eyelids by young ladies. Special care needs to be put in, in these kinds of cosmetic tattooing. They are usually carried out by trained beauty professionals with joint efforts of a dermatologist, an esthetician or a plastic surgeon. It is a Costly beauty regime but is worth it!

Benefits of Herbal beauty products

The latest craze in skin care is about the oldest – “herbal products”. Herbal beauty products have plant derivatives as their ingredients.  Today, the Indian cosmetics industry has a plethora of herbal cosmetic brands like Forest Essentials, Biotique, Himalaya, Blossom Kochhar, VLCC, Dabur, Lotus and many others. Modern scientific researches have evaluated the cleansing, healing and glorifying effects of many herbs used in herbal beauty products. Benefits of herbal products are wide and varied. They have no side effects, are skin-friendly, contain essential minerals and vitamins to tone your skin at the best. Also, these products contain no fragrances and no artificial colors. Aloe Vera, a well known ingredient in herbal beauty products, has antimicrobial, anti-inflammatory and immune-stimulating benefits along with huge amounts of vitamin E and C, and important minerals like Calcium, Chromium, Copper, Iron, Magnesium, Manganese, Potassium, Phosphorous, Sodium, Zinc and amino acids. Aloe Vera also helps in removing wrinkles which hel0ps one to look younger. Rose geranium, an herbal ingredient, contains chemicals that make it an antimicrobial product, lending the plant to use on acne and other skin infections. Grapeseed extract, another herbal cosmetic additive, consists of powerful antioxidants called proanthocyanidins which serves as a good healing agent. Green tea, a popular cleanser ingredient, has antioxidant, anti-inflammatory and ant carcinogenic properties. Chamomile- an herbal ingredient has been known for its soothing properties. Most reputed and large companies manufacturing beauty products have started using more and more herbs or herbal ingredients in their products.  Divya Kanti Lep (paste) manufactured in Ramdev baba’s Pharmacy is a beneficial regular use herbal paste. Shahnaz Hussain’s beauty products are famous for herbal beauty products.

Benefits of Ayurvedic beauty products

According to Ayurveda the human skin is composed of the five great elements (panchamahabhutas) that constitute the fundamental building-blocks of the universe. Ayurvedic skin ingredients such as Amla, Neem and Tulsi can be taken internally to support the health and appearance of your skin. Amalaki and Ashwagandha provide nourishment for dry skin. Neem and Tulsi help purify and clarify oily skin. Amalaki is soothing and nourishing for sensitive skin. Triphala is excellent for all skin types.

Essential oils are used in ayurvedic therapeutic formulations for their ability to help transport the healing wisdom of herbs and herbal oils to the cells and tissues of the body. Essential oils can be added to massage oils, facial oils, bath water and liquid cleansers, in homemade facials and masks and in floral waters and mists. The rose is renowned in ayurveda that helps you in the nourishment of the skin. Sandalwood is another aroma that helps in cleansing skin and for getting glow on your skin. Lavender (Latin name Lavare which means “to wash”) helps disinfect scalp and skin and enhance blood circulation which helps to glorify your skin. But people possessing sensitive skin should avoid lavender use or products containing Lavender as it may cause them allergic reactions.

Benefits of Home-made beauty products

Home made products have some added advantage to commercial products. These products do not have added chemicals or preservatives hence no side effects are likely to occur.

To remove any blemishes and sun tan, grind the blanched almonds and mix it with white of an egg and add to this half teaspoon of lemon juice. Apply it over face and neck and wash it after some time to get shining and smooth skin. The benefits are egg – a product which smoothens and gives shiny effect to your skin and lemon which fades freckles and age spots and gives you brighter skin tone.

You can use raw milk for cleansing the skin. Dip cotton wool in milk and rub it over your skin for deep cleansing. For dry skin, mash an avocado which is a natural moisturizer and beat it to make a creamy paste. Rub it over your face and neck and wash after some time. Raw milk contains essential vitamins and enzymes which is good for your skin. Acne is a problem witnessed by most young people these days. Raw milk is best treatment for the ones suffering from acne.

For a smooth skin, mesh an over ripe banana and add few drops of lemon juice to it. Blend it well and apply over your face, neck and hands. Banana makes your skin soft and supple. It heals acne, vanishes pimples and renders you a smooth tone with regular usage of this homemade cosmetic product.